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L.A. Affairs: I finally found love and joy at 74. Then the pandemic happened
LA TimesI met Ruben in 2012 in a yoga class on Larchmont Boulevard for people with HIV. I figured I’d visit him in Mexico whenever I could, and we’d enjoy whatever time we could spend together. After two weeks, I could see how impoverished his life had become as a blind man with HIV, bereft of his friends, as well as of his artistic, his sight-impaired and his gay communities. When we first entered our hotel room, I oriented him to its layout — our bed, the other bed we could spread our clothes on, the armoire, the bathroom entrance two steps from the foot of the bed. His sister called me at 12:30 p.m. on Wednesday to say Juan José — Ruben — had closed his eyes for a nap, and died.
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