What does healing look like, in unruly and unpredictable grief?

So much has changed when it comes to how we grieve. “The one thing that stands out about Millennials and Gen Z is that they have learned to walk with grief, using whatever means they have,” says life coach Chetna Chakravarthy. “I just find it hard to say my feeling to people and so social media was easier because I didn’t need to actually tell people face to face how I felt it was easier to post because you are behind a screen type thing,” as one participant put it. “It is about being able to sit with one’s new reality, deciphering ways to return to things one did before, and eventually finding a way back to enjoying those things again.” Look for indications of healing in the way you think about the person who is gone. “When you move from feeling the numbing pain of loss to being able to celebrate the life of the deceased, for the first time,” Chakravarthy says, “you can count that as a key triumph.”