Help! Everyone I Date Is Jealous of My Ex-Wife.

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. We’re both dating again, and both of our new partners have expressed some discomfort over our continued friendship—fear that they might not come first, that they can’t compete with 20 years of history, and project things like “you haven’t moved on” on to us. So I think it’s less about a boundary—unless you really want to build one—than saying to your partners: “Look, this is my former partner, who is now my close friend. If I really get to decide what I want, we’ll have a private ceremony and romantic getaway without informing anyone until we get back. And I feel you: I didn’t really want a wedding when I got married at 31, so when I got married a second time there were two people there—my kid and my best friend—with me and my now-husband.