I Found Out My Stepdaughter Is Running an OnlyFans. I Want to Show Her My Approval.

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I doubt she’s seeking your validation, but it could be helpful for her to hear that a parental figure stands by her without judgment—just be clear that you came by this information unbidden, that you obviously haven’t looked at her page, and underscore your intention “to make her feel welcome and cared for.” This could also position you to be someone she feels she can turn to for advice about her work and as someone who will stand by her if other family members find out and have a negative reaction. Dear Care and Feeding, * Your letter signoff Your pronouns Your email Submit Dear Care and Feeding, My daughter is in the third grade and we’re starting to deal with friendship issues. —Trouble at Recess Dear Trouble at Recess, I think it would be wise to get the teacher’s perspective; she may have some insight about the role your daughter plays during these conflicts, and remember: It’s not uncommon for kids to blame their peers when they get in trouble. Also, let your daughter know that while she may want to keep the peace in her crew, sometimes it’s just better to fall back and let your friends handle their issues on their own—especially if she keeps getting caught up when she tries to intervene.