Trouble in paradise? Here’s how to know when it’s time to see a couples counsellor – according to experts

Stay ahead of the curve with our weekly guide to the latest trends, fashion, relationships and more Stay ahead of the curve with our weekly guide to the latest trends, fashion, relationships and more Stay ahead of the curve with our weekly guide to the latest trends, fashion, relationships and more SIGN UP I would like to be emailed about offers, events and updates from The Independent. “If you’ve been fighting, or dread fighting, moving into a phase of not talking meaningfully at all can feel like a relief – but it could be a sign that you’ve both given up on being understood.” Even though every relationship is different, Tessina noted that there are some common problems that could be a call for couples counselling. All these years later, we are happy and haven’t needed counseling in many years.” So, with all these different signs in mind, when exactly is the right time to go to couples therapy? “The therapist can diffuse the emotional intensity and provide a toolbox to better regulate the emotions during difficult conversations.” In regards to how couples therapy can be helpful in the long run, Lurie agreed with Ling, echoing the fact that it can ultimately better you and your partner’s communication skills. “Couples counseling can help couples navigate challenging situations and assist them in better understanding each other including each other’s attachment styles and how their past experiences may impact their current relationship,” Lurie said.