My Boyfriend Really Wants to Try My Biggest Turn-On in Bed. He Doesn’t Have the Skill It Takes.

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Dear How to Do It, I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for three years and my partner would like to explore my turn-on with me. —Slightly Red Cheeks Dear Slightly Red Cheeks, What stands out to me is that you’re imagining what your partner is OK with, and you’re sometimes embarrassed to talk about what you want. It’s even better to hear that our comments section was able to help frame the inappropriateness of your fellow support group member’s actions. Lastly, since you use the word “obsession,” I’d talk with a psychologist to see whether there’s clinical interventions that can help you—and you should know that some mental health professionals warn caution regarding meditation for folks with certain mental health conditions.