How to Find Love Right Now? 9 Coaches Explain Dos and Don'ts of Dating

In “How to Win a Man,” an essay published in 1903, Cosmopolitan magazine told its readers, “The clever girl does not scintillate with brilliant speeches, overshadowing those around her and making them uncomfortable by comparison.” In a 1958 article titled “129 Ways to Get a Husband,” McCall’s, a now-defunct women’s magazine, advised women to have their “car break down at strategic places” and “read the obituaries to find eligible widowers.” In the 2001 bestseller “The Art of Seduction,” author Robert Greene recommended that those seeking a romantic partner should “use the demonic power of words to sow confusion.” For more-modern and less-demonic relationship advice, we asked some of today’s most prominent dating advisers about strategies for finding love in 2023. Sometimes getting what we want doesn’t come naturally.” DATING DON’T: “Put all your eggs in one basket.” RED FLAG: “White lies.” PICKUP LINE: “Go up to someone at a bookstore and ask if they know where a certain series is.” FLIRTIEST EMOJI: “Upside-down smiley. I repeat, kill the dinner date idea!” DATING DO: “Make the person feel special.” DATING DON’T: “Lie.” RED FLAG: “Short tempers.” PICKUP LINE: “Compliment followed by question: ‘I love those glasses you’re wearing. They have sex on the first date, then just hope it’ll work out on the back end.” RED FLAG: “Pet names.” PICKUP LINE: “I admire that you _______.” FLIRTIEST EMOJI: “Emojis are cheesy and cartoony. DATING DO: “Be willing to make the move.” DATING DON’T: “Hide your intentions.” RED FLAG: “The way they handle conflict doesn’t align with you.” PICKUP LINE: “Hey, I know this is random, and you don’t know me, but I needed to come over and say hi, because I thought you’re really interesting.” FLIRTIEST EMOJI: “You can’t go wrong with a kiss emoji.