Dear men, a kiss is never just ‘a kiss’
The IndependentWoody Allen, who at 87 should know better, has waded into the debate about Spanish FA president Luis Rubiales’ full-throttle grab of world-cup-winning footballer Jenni Hermoso. “The kiss on the soccer player was wrong,” he concedes, “but he did not burn down a school… they didn’t hide, nor did he kiss her in a dark alley. The surprise isn’t that he believes this, but that in 2023 he still feels emboldened to express the view that a kiss is “just” a kiss shows “just” how big the gulf is between how many men and women see things. I’m heartened that they seem spared the relentless soundtrack of “cheer up, love” or “I’d like to get in your saddle” that I’d get when on my bicycle at the same age. If they want to “get with” a girl or boy, they ask first, which sounds clunky to my jaded Gen X ears but then I think, hang on, of course, if you’re putting your tongue in someone’s mouth the least you can do is use that tongue to ask if it’s OK. I’ve known 17-year-old boys to hold interventions where they tell their friends off for pestering girls at parties, while another was ostracised for upskirting.