L.A. Affairs: I’m a trans woman. And, for once, I wasn’t fetishized
LA TimesAs a trans woman, I feel like a fling, a phase, a passing interest for someone to explore before they settle down — with someone else. My boyfriend was a fresh college grad at the time, the rent for his room was cheap, and they all seemed “nice enough.” Two weeks after losing his job, my boyfriend’s roommates revealed “it wasn’t working out” and signed a new lease — without him. In the moments I wanted to break down over my fears about my boyfriend, I would think: “No tears, you already made the promise.” Lifestyle L.A. Affairs: I finally figured out why my marriages kept failing I was divorced twice by the time I was 26. And I couldn’t touch him or kiss him or even hear him say “I love you” in person. Before my boyfriend and I were official, after every date, I would think, “Well that’s the last time I’ll ever see him.” And when he did call or text or show up, I remained skeptical Even now, I wonder if our relationship was a one-time thing, a lucky break I happened to catch.
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L.A. Affairs: The sheer exhaustion of dating as a single mom
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L.A. Affairs: I finally figured out why my marriages kept failing
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