6 Phrases You Should Never Say When Your Partner Is Having A Bad Day

LOADING ERROR LOADING When your partner is having a bad day, you want to do what you can to help them feel a little better — not make an already crappy day worse. “Some people might appreciate a problem-solving approach, whereas others may just want you to listen,” Toronto-based relationship expert Jessica O’Reilly, who is also the resident sexologist at Astroglide, told HuffPost. “Your partner may feel invalidated if you offer them solutions, while another may feel supported and empowered.” We have a tendency to support others the same way we’d like to be supported. “Hey, it could be worse.” While this remark is typically said with positive intentions, it minimizes your partner’s feelings about the situation at hand, said relationship expert Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp. “It’s not that big of a deal.” This is another example of a comment that minimizes the situation and your partner’s feelings about it, which can make them feel invalidated, said Brianne Billups Hughes, a marriage and family therapist in Santa Barbara, California.