Help! My Wife Just Told Me I’d Always Be “Second Place” to Her First Love. He’s Long Dead.

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. When I got upset over this, she told me to accept the fact that I’d always come second place to her dead love. My spouse won’t tell anyone we’re separated, says they “just can’t tell” the kids what’s happening, and repeats, “If you come home and cancel the divorce, we can forget all about this.” I set a timeline and they asked for more time to process, then said because I offered 30 days, I was not serious about the divorce. —This Is Happening Dear Happening, Some might begin their answer by saying, “I’m sorry to hear about your divorce,” but I want to applaud you for leaving. —Not Exactly Beach Bummed Dear Beach Bummed, Why would you want to go on a vacation with people you don’t get along with?