‘Give yourself permission to feel hurt first’: Former monk explains why this step to forgiveness can't be skipped
4 months ago

‘Give yourself permission to feel hurt first’: Former monk explains why this step to forgiveness can't be skipped

Hindustan Times  

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure of where things are headed or how to move forward? What is true forgiveness "Instead of immediately trying to forgive someone, first give yourself permission to feel hurt. He further says, "If you force yourself into forgiveness before feeling and moving through the layers of anger and hurt, it won't be a clean and true forgiveness, but rather a pseudo-virtuous form of suppression." How to avoid suppressed forgiveness and people-pleasing He further explains, "If you notice a theme of quickly forgiving people while continuing to get hurt in the future, there's a strong chance it's not true forgiveness. Highlighting the delicate balance between self-forgiveness and accountability, Cory says, "Forgiving yourself when others don't is a deep spiritual practice.

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We've All Been Told To Forgive — But Here's When You Shouldn't
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We've All Been Told To Forgive — But Here's When You Shouldn't

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LordHenriVoton via Getty Images The concept of forgiveness is often framed by a fascinating spirituality-based narrative that advises us we should always do it, no matter what the circumstances. Boykin broke down everything that we — Raj Punjabi and Noah Michelson, the co-hosts of HuffPost’s “Am I Doing It Wrong?” podcast — wanted to know about what authentic forgiveness looks …

We've All Been Told To Forgive — But Here's When You Shouldn't
2 months, 2 weeks ago

We've All Been Told To Forgive — But Here's When You Shouldn't

Huff Post  

LordHenriVoton via Getty Images The concept of forgiveness is often framed by a fascinating spirituality-based narrative that advises us we should always do it, no matter what the circumstances. Boykin broke down everything that we — Raj Punjabi and Noah Michelson, the co-hosts of HuffPost’s “Am I Doing It Wrong?” podcast — wanted to know about what authentic forgiveness looks …

World Mental Health Day 2022: 6 tips to forgive yourself
2 years, 5 months ago

World Mental Health Day 2022: 6 tips to forgive yourself

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You can’t forgive yourself if you don’t take responsibility for what you did both to yourself and the person you wronged. Going with the flow is usually tough and things don’t always happen as per the plan. Take responsibility: You can’t forgive yourself if you don’t take responsibility for what you did both to yourself and the person you wronged. …

How to forgive yourself and move ahead this coming year
3 years, 3 months ago

How to forgive yourself and move ahead this coming year

Live Mint  

Going through life and experiencing many changes and challenges can sometimes hurt us or even disappoint us. Let's focus on forgiving ourselves, looking at ourselves, our choices, past behaviour, decisions, and see if we are ready to forgive and move ahead into the New Year. "Self-forgiveness is healthy and necessary; it will help reduce anxiety, give peace of mind, provide …

How To Forgive Someone : Life Kit : NPR
4 years, 8 months ago

How To Forgive Someone : Life Kit : NPR

NPR  

Why Forgiving Someone Else Is Really About You Enlarge this image Angela Hsieh for NPR Angela Hsieh for NPR Forgiveness has a PR problem. "And more and more things that are really traumatic happen — then maybe it's not OK," Holub says. "The expanded version of forgiveness that I love to teach is a deep, soul-level letting-go of our pain, …

Mystic Mantra: Forgiveness inspires others to love
5 years, 5 months ago

Mystic Mantra: Forgiveness inspires others to love

Deccan Chronicle  

When faced with painful events caused by others, we have a choice. Forgiveness involves forgetting what the person has done to us so we can move on with our life with a clear mind and heart. If we know that anger can cause irreparable damage to our brain, then we may want to consider learning the art of forgiveness. Additionally, …

Mystic Mantra: Forgiveness soothes the heart and cools the sting
5 years, 8 months ago

Mystic Mantra: Forgiveness soothes the heart and cools the sting

Deccan Chronicle  

Let bygones be bygones. No one is so powerful as to be able to hate others without suffocating one’s own happiness and stifling one’s own personal growth. This teaching is reflected in what is referred to as the foundational Prophetic teaching — meaning that the first saying attributed to the Prophet that a teacher imparts to his or her student …

You Can't Truly Forgive Someone Without Doing This First
7 years, 7 months ago

You Can't Truly Forgive Someone Without Doing This First

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It can be so hard to forgive because ― so often ― we simply are in the right and the scale of the folly, thoughtlessness and meanness of others seems utterly beyond our own measure. The hyper-critical individual has lived too much, as their personality was growing, around people who couldn’t take a gentle hint ― so they came to …

Why Forgiveness Is At The Core Of Peace And Spiritual Growth
9 years, 6 months ago

Why Forgiveness Is At The Core Of Peace And Spiritual Growth

Huff Post  

Pope John Paul II shakes hands with his would-be assassin, Mehmet Ali Agca on December 27, 1983. The man told her that he felt “overwhelmed” by the forgiveness meditation she led the class in, and said, "I don't know if it is possible to learn to forgive. “We may recognize, like that meditator, that taking a position of hatred is …

Conversations With Self: Forgiving…does it mean forgetting?
12 years, 10 months ago

Conversations With Self: Forgiving…does it mean forgetting?

The Hindu  

O nce there were two brothers who fought bitterly and parted as enemies. When his brother visited him to enquire about his health, the soon-to-have-died brother said, “I have forgiven you, but remember, I shall never forget.” Forgiving someone who has hurt us and forgetting what that person did are quite different. Without experiencing true forgiveness, forgetting can be a …

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