‘Give yourself permission to feel hurt first’: Former monk explains why this step to forgiveness can't be skipped

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure of where things are headed or how to move forward? What is true forgiveness "Instead of immediately trying to forgive someone, first give yourself permission to feel hurt. He further says, "If you force yourself into forgiveness before feeling and moving through the layers of anger and hurt, it won't be a clean and true forgiveness, but rather a pseudo-virtuous form of suppression." How to avoid suppressed forgiveness and people-pleasing He further explains, "If you notice a theme of quickly forgiving people while continuing to get hurt in the future, there's a strong chance it's not true forgiveness. Highlighting the delicate balance between self-forgiveness and accountability, Cory says, "Forgiving yourself when others don't is a deep spiritual practice.