One of the Most Dreaded Sex Mishaps of All Just Happened to Me. Except Totally in Reverse.
SlateHow to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. —Can’t Go All the Way Dear Can’t Go All the Way, “Just don’t stop” is indeed common guidance for when things become “too much.” In Come Together, Emily Nagoski writes about the legendary sex educator Betty Dodson’s instructional videos, in which she coached women to orgasm: Over and over in Betty’s sessions, women learn that the urge to take away stimulation when it feels like “too much” can interrupt pleasure and prevent it from growing into all that it can be in their bodies. He told me that “just don’t stop” isn’t bad advice per se, “But if it’s not working, then it’s like, what else is there to try?” Your Magic Wand might not be it. What happens if you’re watching trans men having sex?” wondered Constantinides. I would try to figure out a way to make this ethical—if knowing you’re having sex with someone else would hurt his feelings and you don’t want to hurt his feelings, could he be open to a don’t-ask-don’t-tell arrangement?
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