Four ways to start a conversation with a loved one about suicidal ideation

Editors’ Note: This article discusses suicide and contains details about mental health crises. Signs to look out for include: An increase in mental illness symptoms Substance abuse issues Increase in impulsive or dangerous behaviors Previous suicide attempts or family history of suicide Withdrawing from social events or groups Giving away important items or large sums of money Increased apathy about life goals Irritability or mood swings Self-harm Traumatic brain injury The way in which warning signs present differs for each individual, which is why knowing ways to start these important conversations, as well as what to do if the person you care for is feeling suicidal, has the potential to save lives. If your loved one says anything sounding like these statements: “I don’t want to be here anyone”, “everyone would be better off without me” or more direct statements like “I wish I could just die” make sure not to overlook these as dramatic gestures and instead explore further. It is important not to minimize the feelings the other person is sharing with statements such as: “Everything will be okay” “You have so much to be thankful for” “Things are not as bad as you think, it will get better” “You will be fine” Rather try practicing compassion which also helps the person feel that their feelings matter and they are not a burden for sharing them, but rather are brave and respected for doing so. Personal Support It is important to remember that as someone supporting a person experiencing suicidal thoughts, you will need your own support.