My Wife Gave Me a Hall Pass. I Can’t Bring Myself to Use It.

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Ageism exists and it sucks, but it’s not actually de facto law, especially if you put yourself in spaces that cater to guys around your age. Is it still OK with you?” If she is aware that you haven’t actually hooked up with anyone outside of your relationship in the 10 years since you were given the OK, I’d definitely check back in. I think you’ll save yourself money and possibly bank some regulars if you cruise locally via apps and/or bars/clubs. —Rich More Advice From Slate I went on a sailing trip with my friend that took a shocking twist when she openly got fingered by the boat’s captain in front of me and within earshot of the other passengers.