My Brother Went Missing, And The Search For Him Turned My World Upside Down

Andrew Devendorf and Matt Devendorf taking a selfie while waiting to be in the audience for "The Steve Harvey Show" in 2016. My Facebook feed was filled with Matt’s “MISSING” flyers ― roughly 3,000 people shared my post about his disappearance. Being proactive also saves the person going through the trauma of having to expend more emotional energy on making decisions about things that they probably don’t want to deal with ― or can’t ― even if it’s something as small and seemingly simple as, “Do you want me to bring you cookies or brownies?” Let people “be” at work, unless they need you. When Matt went missing, I felt like I became a sponge that absorbed other people’s trauma. When Matt went missing, my life changed forever, and I’ve never fully recovered from the idea and the reality that he’s gone.