Help! My Sister Saw a Secret Photo on My Digital Frame. All Hell’s Broken Loose.

1 week, 2 days ago

I Thought I’d Devised the Perfect Way to Finally Afford a House. It’s Coming Back to Bite Me.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Dear Pay Dirt, I’m a 34-year-old man, and about four years ago, I bought a house as 50 percent tenants in common with my close friend “Jae,” who is 36 and nonbinary. Two years ago, however, I met and started dating “Elle.” We’re incredibly happy together and have been talking about marriage and …

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2 weeks, 3 days ago

Help! I Just Found Out My Husband Racked Up $100,000 of Credit Card Debt Because He Was “Depressed.”

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I don’t think you should skip the Christmas visit, but it’s worth sending your sister an email or a text ahead of time that expresses 1) how important it is to you to be getting together for the holidays, 2) how much you respect the choice she has made to build a happy, healthy …

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55 years ago

I Paid for My Sister’s Stepchildren to Join Our Vacation. Then They Purposefully Betrayed Me.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Dear Pay Dirt, We made the mistake of trying to be inclusive of the adult kids of my sister’s partner. It won’t be easy, but that might mean reiterating that this car is a gift to your nephew, not a shared family resource. Your goal is to prioritize your nephew’s well-being, and as …

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3 weeks, 5 days ago

My Brother’s Wife Returned From Black Friday Shopping to Find Him Dead. But I Think She Was Responsible.

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I believe that my brother’s wife killed him. She said he had probably just “pulled a muscle.” But my brother said he couldn’t think of anything he had done that might have caused that. I can’t even look her in the eye, let alone help her, knowing that …

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4 weeks, 1 day ago

How to deal with ‘sadmin’ when a loved one dies

The Independent

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4 weeks, 1 day ago

I Cut Off My Parents for the Sake of My Sister. Now She’s Betrayed Me in the Worst Way.

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Around the same time, I found she was asking my grandma for money “to help with bills” when we actually didn’t need help—the money had gone straight into her pocket. My wife wasn’t too happy about that since it’s my ex-wife’s name, but it is a family name going back several generations …

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55 years ago

My Sister Keeps Asking Us to “Donate” to Her New Life as a Mom. She’s Up to Something Suspicious.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. The problem is, if you suspect your sister might be misappropriating funds anyway, she might have no problem paying those fees if it’s someone else’s money. If your niece doesn’t end up using it all, you can also change the beneficiary to another family member, like a sibling. An example of a script …

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1 month ago

Help! My Retirement Community Friend Is Getting Oddly Close to My Daughter and Grandchild.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Marie’s daughter “Claire,” on the other hand, lives a long plane ride away, and was reluctant even to let Marie visit for a few days after her child was born. —Enough Is Enough Dear Enough, Deciding that your parents aren’t people you want to spend much time around anymore is a tough choice that …

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55 years ago

My Sister-in-Law’s Son Barely Knew My Parents. She’s Demanding He Get a Portion of Their Estate. Excuse Me?

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —Cut a Check Dear Cut a Check, Try to be as normal as possible with your brother and limit contact with Emily until she’s gotten over what she feels is a slight. Let your brother know that you didn’t want to slight his stepchild, but that you were simply dispersing the funds …

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1 month, 2 weeks ago

I Was Accidentally Left in My Wife’s Family Group Chat. I Can’t Believe What They Think of Us.

Slate

Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. Growing up, my wife didn’t have much of a relationship with his side of the family for various petty reasons—her grandma was upset that her mom started dating “too soon” and didn’t mourn her son for a full year, and my wife’s mom wouldn’t let her get together with them …

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1 month, 2 weeks ago

Help! My Mom Believes She Has a Psychic Connection to Her Dead Relatives.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Any issues that might arise from her current fixation would be obvious to her husband, and hopefully, if that time comes, he’ll be bold enough to get her the help she requires. Dear Prudence, * Your letter signoff Your pronouns Your email Submit Dear Prudence, I’m in a chat group with three friends I …

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1 month, 3 weeks ago

Help! We Adopted Our Niece When My Sister Died. I Never Imagined She’d Turn Out Like This.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. We didn’t do anything for our son’s wedding other than attend and his sister has never asked for help like this before. My daughter and my son say they are done with their cousin and will not attend the wedding if they’re invited. —Wedding Question Dear Wedding Question, You’ve already done great by your …

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1 month, 4 weeks ago

Help! I Still Have Evidence of My Wife’s Secret Past. She Has No Clue.

Slate

Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years. “The last time I tried to talk to you about my engagement ring, you shut down, but that’s not how I want us to handle conflict in our relationship. My Fiancé Stupidly Spent a Year’s Salary on an Engagement Ring.. Dear Prudence, I have been dating my girlfriend for three …

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2 months ago

Woman refuses to foot therapy bill for sister’s ‘meltdown’ at her wedding

The Independent

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2 months, 1 week ago

Help! I Just Visited My Brother and His Wife for Her “Baby Shower.” But It Was a Trap.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Dear Prudence, My late mother didn’t leave it in her will, but she always expressed a desire to “take care” of her grandchildren: my nephew “Ben,” and my niece “Sally.” She died six years ago. I wrote a check to Sally and Ben for $10,000 each and signed it “Love Grandma.” I didn’t tell …

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2 months, 3 weeks ago

My mother's final secret: Searching for the little sister I never knew I had

Salon

I'd been having dinner with my cousin Danny, in town for a few days on a business trip, when he lightly dropped the bombshell. What I do know now from other family members is that my mother's other sister, back in Jersey City, regularly and vindictively threatened to reveal her secret. What if my mother had been able to tell …

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55 years ago

My Family Has Been Forcing Me to Keep an Untenable Secret, and I’m About to Explode

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. There’s no reason for you to feel shame; you and your ex are amicable, your kids are doing well, and you’ve even managed to find a new partner. She wanted the roller coaster, and “it wasn’t fair!” I told Mary that we could do the roller coaster twice but not another ride …

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55 years ago

Help! My Sister Stupidly Bought a Farm to “Raise Her Kids on the Land.” Now She’s Trying to Drag Me Into the Dirt.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I shared the news about my parents’ deaths in my Christmas card, but I never heard from Susan, though she continued to send a Christmas card every year. It’s clear that you miss her friendship, but it looks like she’s not in the right space to show up for you in the way you …

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55 years ago

I Received a Large Sum of Money When I Was Young. What I Used It on Is Coming Back to Haunt Me.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. She can’t understand why you “wasted” money on people and things that don’t directly benefit her, which she’s framing as your future progeny. Your parents gave you an incredible gift: They raised you to understand that happiness doesn’t depend on how much money you have in the bank. This time, he said he …

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3 months, 1 week ago

My Husband Made an Agreement With His Sister Before I Ever Met Him. Now It’s Haunting Me.

Slate

Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. Dear Care and Feeding, I never agreed with the way my sister-in-law and her husband parent, but I didn’t feel like I could say anything because it’s not like I’ve cracked the code on how to make parenting always go right. I recently found out that my husband agreed to …

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3 months, 1 week ago

Help! I Broke a Solemn Promise to My Husband in a Crisis. The Guilt Is Eating Me Alive.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Your husband’s health, and the stability of your family, are worth the time and work it will take to set boundaries with his parents again. Dear Prudence, My husband’s side of the family treats us differently than the rest of the family, and it’s been more pronounced ever since we had children. She makes …

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55 years ago

Help! I Can’t Escape the Ghosts of My Husband’s Horrid Neighborhood Affair.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Dear Prudence, My partner won’t leave politics alone—we hold similar political views, but discussing them every evening is exhausting me. My sister doesn’t want to hear it and even stopped family therapy because of it. —House Hunter Dear House Hunter, Your sister is angry at the circumstances of her life, and I’m so sorry …

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55 years ago

Help! My Son Destroyed His Family With an Affair. Now He’s Going to Ruin What’s Left of It.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Kay isn’t happy and that makes Dee unhappy—and my son insists that if he smashes his two daughters together enough they will “bond.” My new daughter-in-law is no help. I didn’t even know people could be fired from it; it’s basically the rote department office management role that supports us during our PhDs. I’m …

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55 years ago

My Husband Died. I Never Expected My Stepkids to Treat Me This Way in the Aftermath.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. The plan was for us to rejigger my husband’s will so I could live in our home until my passing but he got sick and passed away unexpectedly last year and I am still living in the house he left his children.. His kids have done very well financially and don’t need this …

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3 months, 4 weeks ago

Help! My Sister Keeps Ruining Wedding Events by Bringing Her Uninvited Toddler.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. —Advice Problems Dear Advice Problems, What I’m hearing is that your boyfriend feels like you’re telling him he’s wrong when you don’t choose his choice. At the retirement party of a relative, Kayla cornered me and bluntly told me to “back off.” She didn’t want me around, and said it was pathetic how I …

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55 years ago

My Wife Inherited a House. She Has a Maddening Idea About What to Do With It.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Dear Pay Dirt, Last summer, my wife’s mother died, leaving her a large house in a small town in Germany, which is where my wife grew up. We are saving for college, but my wife used her late husband’s life insurance to pay off the house and what I got from my late …

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55 years ago

Help! I’ve Done an Extremely Intimate Service in Exchange for Money. Now My Stepbrother Expects Me to Do It for Him.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Filling in is Ashley C. Ford, the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir Somebody’s Daughter, published by Flatiron Books. If your daughter continues to bring up the fighting, it’s OK to say, “Honey, we’re sorry this has become such an enduring source of conflict, especially during what should be a beautiful time, …

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55 years ago

Help! My Brother Just Discovered Our Dad’s “Other Family.” Now He Wants to Rope Me Into His Plans.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. You could even write a never-to-be-sent letter to Emily explaining the bad vibes you get from Max, and how you really wish she’d find a partner more like yours. Ryan is a very masculine powerlifter with a big beard, and apparently, once during a heated argument about trans people, I commented something like, “A …

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4 months, 3 weeks ago

I’m Sharing My Windfall With My Wife. But She’s Sorely Mistaken About a Key Detail.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Plus, a new kitchen doesn’t make us money, but a new rental property does. It won’t be helpful to suddenly make this an issue about your money versus hers—especially if you two haven’t split your finances like this in the past. That money can help cover the gap you’ll have once you stop …

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55 years ago

My Cousins Want Me to “Do the Right Thing” With My Inheritance. No Way.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Whether or not your cousin genuinely wanted to be there to support you after your mother’s death is another matter, but right now, that doesn’t seem to be the case. Dear Pay Dirt, For many years I’ve used a financial institution that was loosely affiliated with my credit union to manage my IRAs. …

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55 years ago

I’ve Always Gotten More Money Help From Our Mom. But My Brother’s Accusations This Time Have Gone Too Far.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. In other words, if she thinks you paid $500 for your ticket, and the companion fare is $100, maybe she’s suggesting that she pays you $300 to split the total cost. It sounds like you might’ve purchased your ticket entirely in points, but I’m not sure whether she knows those details. But if …

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55 years ago

My Stepson Demanded I Fund His Lifestyle. My Husband’s Reaction Floored Me.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. As you probably already know, if your husband co-signs this loan, he’ll be responsible for paying it back if Steve defaults on it, which is not a farfetched reality given Steve’s track record. He’ll need to make up his mind about how to split the inheritance before you take the next step, which …

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6 months, 1 week ago

My Parents Left Us a Million-Dollar Lake House. My Brother Is Standing in the Way.

Slate

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Due to her daycare closing unexpectedly, my sister asked if she could drop off her 10-year-old daughter, “June”, and her 8-year-old son “August” when she or her husband couldn’t swing childcare themselves. My stepdaughter got fed up and told the rest of the kids that they were going home and wouldn’t be going …

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7 months ago

Money Talk: My ex-wife lent my money to her boss. What can I do?

LA Times

Dear Liz: I recently found out that my ex lent one of her former bosses $2,500 to get his brother out of jail on bond. Having said that, I would like to give my daughter a good amount of money but I believe I can’t give more than $18,000 a year. Dear Liz: Recently, someone asked if closing a credit …

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1 year, 1 month ago

Help! My Sister-in-Law Has Totally Hijacked Our Family Dinner for Her Own Selfish Ends.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. My in-laws both use walkers and can’t really watch the baby, let alone keep the two older kids from acting out. —Temporary Fix Dear Temporary Fix, Most people write to me when the sister and baby are already living with them and can’t or won’t leave. Lay out the facts to her: “I want …

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1 year, 2 months ago

Help! I Agreed to Be My Sister’s Sperm Donor. Now She’s Taking It Way Too Far.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. If, God forbid, they do find themselves needing to make another plan to build their family, your line, delivered calmly and repeated as often as needed, is, “I know you are disappointed and I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through but I am not comfortable doing this again.” It’s going to be a …

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1 year, 4 months ago

Help! My Sister’s Secret Celebrity Relationship Is Making Our Lives Miserable.

Slate

Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years. At the same time, she’s terrified someone from our family will accidentally disclose Jay’s identity and “ruin everything.” This has raised some concerns for me about their relationship. I don’t know how to talk to Simone about any of this, because previous concerns have been dismissed as “you just don’t …

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1 year, 4 months ago

Help! I Had an Affair With My Late Sister’s Husband at the Worst Time. Now I’m Dealing With the Aftermath.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Besides the horrible emotional cost of all of this, I am now navigating all sorts of family pressure, particularly from my parents who cannot understand why I am “heartlessly ignoring my nephews when they need me most.” It’s a horribly fraught situation and one I hope will resolve with time, but for now, I …

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1 year, 4 months ago

Together Through it all!

Deccan Chronicle

A deep relationship Anna is the first half of Amma and the second half of Nanna. — MLC Kalvakuntla Kavitha, sister of K. T. Rama Rao, Minister for IT E&C; Municipal Administration & Urban Development; Industries & Commerce ‘Akka instilled empathy in me’ My Akka Sucharitha and I have always been more like friends, we’ve had very few disagreements. “Be …

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1 year, 7 months ago

I’m Furious My Mom Has Been Keeping My Father’s Amazing Family From Me My Whole Life

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I was shocked and found it odd when the letter closed with “in the past, requests to meet you have been denied, but your father’s family would like you to know that if you ever would like to meet, they are eager to get to know you,” as I had no idea …

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1 year, 8 months ago

My Sister Wants to Join Her 18-Year-Old Son on His Trip Abroad. Oh God.

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. In terms of “academics,” he’s 4: It’s easy to “do school” at home for part of every day because everyday activities can be educational. Any time my daughter asks for something, MIL barks back at her, “Can I have, PLEASE.” If I ask daughter if she wants X and she says no, …

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1 year, 11 months ago

Help! My Mother-in-Law Called Me an “Awful Housekeeper” Right After I Gave Birth.

Slate

Dear Prudence is online weekly to chat live with readers on Mondays at noon ET. Alice blew smoke in my wife’s face and told her she doesn’t have to listen to a “bitch” like her. My best idea is to coexist peacefully with minimal contact but if you would like to propose something else that works for both of us, …

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1 year, 11 months ago

Help! I Just Discovered My Dead Husband Had a Secret Second Family.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. New Year, Same Problems For an upcoming special edition of Dear Prudence, we want to hear about the messy situations plaguing you that you’d like to shed in the new year. What two consenting adults do in their personal lives is none of my business, and I’m not entirely sure what my students’ understanding …

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2 years, 1 month ago

Mom gave them her house before she died. Why that’s bad

LA Times

Giving a home to your heirs rather than bequeathing it to them through a will or trust can cost them more in taxes. That is what’s known as the home’s tax basis, and it will be subtracted from the sale proceeds to determine your potentially taxable capital gain. You don’t qualify for the home sale exclusion that allows many home …

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2 years, 2 months ago

Help! My Son Caught His Fiancé in Bed With His Brother.

Slate

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Give Prudie a Hand in “We’re Prudence” Sometimes even Prudence needs a little help. She is refusing to pay me back or buy replacements because “I always share” and she “shouldn’t have had to remember which were special” and I should have kept the gifts far from the “communal wine.” The thing is, literally …

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2 years, 4 months ago

My Dad Hid My Sister From Me For Decades. Then I Learned That Wasn't Our Only Family Secret.

Huff Post

The author with her brother and sister during a visit in New York City in 2002. “Your brother was going through your dad’s briefcase seven years ago and discovered letters from your sister,” she told me. Once I saw an email on his computer and asked who it was from, and he swore me to secrecy.” “So, Dad doesn’t know …

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3 years, 5 months ago

After my parents died, I cut my siblings out of my life for good. I don’t regret it

The Independent

The best of Voices delivered to your inbox every week - from controversial columns to expert analysis Sign up for our free weekly Voices newsletter for expert opinion and columns Sign up to our free weekly Voices newsletter SIGN UP I would like to be emailed about offers, events and updates from The Independent. At first, when the sibling divisions …

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55 years ago

Help! My Sister Is Secretly Dating a Celebrity and Is Terrified People Will Find Out.

Slate

Danny M. Lavery is online weekly to chat live with readers. At the same time, she’s terrified someone from our family will accidentally disclose Jay’s identity and “ruin everything.” This has raised some concerns for me about their relationship. I don’t know how to talk to Simone about any of this, because previous concerns have been dismissed as “you just …

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5 years, 11 months ago

Dear Prudence: Family members have lived with me rent-free for 11 years.

Slate

Dear Prudence, I love my family, and I know that times are tough. I’ve thought about offering them a space in the house for a fixed number of years rent-free so they can save money and then be prepared to find new accommodations when our family grows. You know that letting your parents move in with you would be a …

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Help! My Sister Saw a Secret Photo on My Digital Frame. All Hell’s Broken Loose.

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