How to support a friend or loved one going through IVF

Sign up to our free Living Well email for advice on living a happier, healthier and longer life Live your life healthier and happier with our free weekly Living Well newsletter Live your life healthier and happier with our free weekly Living Well newsletter SIGN UP I would like to be emailed about offers, events and updates from The Independent. “One of the biggest misconceptions about IVF is that it guarantees instant success, especially on the first try,” says Dr Amit Shah, leading gynaecologist and co-founder of Harley Street clinic Fertility Plus. Maiti suggests: “Avoid saying ‘just relax’ or ‘it will happen when it’s meant to be’, as these can feel dismissive.” Shah agrees, adding: “You may want to refrain from, offering unsolicited advice. “It shows support without pushing for details.” Shah adds: “It’s also helpful to gauge their need for conversation or distraction with questions like, ‘Would you like to talk about the process, or would you prefer a distraction? “If it’s something they may feel comfortable with, encourage your loved one to join a support group or connect with others who are going through similar experiences,” Shah adds.