A hard equation to resolve: Simran Mangharam on infidelity

Despite the massive fallout, though, they stayed together. And I have found that cases typically fall into one of three categories: those where nothing changes; those where everything changes ; and those where the affair turn out to be terminal for the relationship. A 37-year-old client of mine, let’s call her Tina, has been in a loveless marriage for 10 years. From “seeing” and “listening” to his wife to sharing experiences that they both enjoy outside of their home, we are working to make sure his wife feels seen, heard and wanted. Whatever the circumstances and fallout, I tend to agree with psychotherapist Esther Perel, who says that there are lessons to learn from any incident of infidelity in one’s life.