Help! My Retirement Community Friend Is Getting Oddly Close to My Daughter and Grandchild.

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Marie’s daughter “Claire,” on the other hand, lives a long plane ride away, and was reluctant even to let Marie visit for a few days after her child was born. —Enough Is Enough Dear Enough, Deciding that your parents aren’t people you want to spend much time around anymore is a tough choice that often goes unvalidated. It sounds like the only pushback you’ll receive is from your mother who will want to take photos, but feel free to tell her, “I’m sorry, Mom, but we’ve decided to do something smaller and more private to accommodate the majority of people’s schedules this year.” If the she wants to see your grown children, she can make plans with them on her own. That’s the time when “persistent” becomes “harassing,” and no one should have to live in a place where they feel harassed by members of their living community.