Help! My Husband Doesn’t Want to Be in the Delivery Room Because He Thinks It’s “Gross.”
Dear Prudence is online weekly to chat live with readers. While overseas, I met my husband “Jax” and we’ve been married for just over two years. I get what Jax was trying to say but it involves a lot of issues of race, power, and colonization that I don’t think Lily and my white family can understand. A: “It involves a lot of issues of race, power, and colonization that I don’t think Lily and my white family can understand” is almost exactly right. Except I’d edit your statement to say, “It involves a lot of issues of race, power, and colonization that I don’t think Lily and my white family want to understand.” They are being obtuse on purpose and believe me, their acting as the reverse racism police signals an ignorant worldview that means this isn’t going to be the last problem you have with them.
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