55 years, 3 months ago

My Feminist Husband Is the Envy of All. But I’m Stuck Wanting Something Else Entirely.

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. I’ve certainly had swings back and forth throughout my life of periods of feeling more attracted to women versus men, but this seems more persistent, and our sex life is struggling. If the brakes are down then you’re going to have a really hard time getting the sex car moving. Over time, I’ve tried various ways to see if I can ramp up my personal sex drive, but things like masturbation end up feeling disingenuous and again, mechanical, to me. After one of my first procedures, my ex and I legit stopped having sex because he said he felt like I was “damaged.” I’m concerned that history is simply repeating itself.

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