I’ve Never Orgasmed. My Husband Won’t Do the One Thing I Think Would Help.
1 week, 5 days ago

I’ve Never Orgasmed. My Husband Won’t Do the One Thing I Think Would Help.

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. He says he didn’t really realize it wasn’t happening before, which feels like a pretty bad excuse from someone who watches porn on the regular. It makes me question if our relationship is as solid as I’ve always thought if he’s apparently never put equal consideration to my sexual needs. If I’m reading you properly, you haven’t experienced orgasm at all, and you jumped right to attempting to find a way to do so with your husband. If you want to continue the route you’ve been going and continue to try for your orgasm with your husband present, I think you should try to be more verbal.

Sex Feel Husband Sexual My Husband Your Husband Orgasm Our Relationship Porn  think  ive  sexual  hes  orgasms  sex  orgasmed  wont  orgasm  im  feel  try  thing  porn  help  husband

History of this topic

I’ve Never Gotten a Woman Off With This Basic Technique. I’ve Failed as a Man.
2 weeks, 1 day ago

I’ve Never Gotten a Woman Off With This Basic Technique. I’ve Failed as a Man.

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. I’m guessing a lot of your education around sex comes from porn and television, which, when untempered by reality-based sex education, can lead to some impossible standards for ourselves and others. If you’re finding yourself feeling like you don’t measure up in other areas of your life as well, or are …

My New Wife Is Getting a Bad Bargain Out of Our Sex Life
55 years ago

My New Wife Is Getting a Bad Bargain Out of Our Sex Life

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. I certainly don’t think that she “can’t” orgasm, particularly because she can give herself what she describes as “little orgasms” by doing exercises like leg lifts, which I’ve seen referred to as a “coregasm.” Interestingly, what my wife really enjoys is foot massages. We both recognize that orgasm should not/need not …

A sexologist's advice on what to do if you can't orgasm without a vibrator
7 months, 1 week ago

A sexologist's advice on what to do if you can't orgasm without a vibrator

ABC  

It's a special moment when you use a vibrator on your vulva for the first time. "If the only way you've ever masturbated or orgasms is with a toy, then what we've actually done is just we've taught our body that's how we have an orgasm," Lauren says. "No one's job is ever to give someone else an orgasm," she …

Sex With My Partner Is Good. So Good I Can’t Orgasm.
1 year, 1 month ago

Sex With My Partner Is Good. So Good I Can’t Orgasm.

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. You’ve started refraining from masturbating two or three days before sex and you’ve seen positive results—try fasting for longer. We’ve even tried lightly kinky sex, but that literally went nowhere. We confirm that we both want to do it, and then either go to the bedroom or get changed, depending on …

My Husband Is Almost Too Good in Bed. Now I Have a Big Problem.
55 years ago

My Husband Is Almost Too Good in Bed. Now I Have a Big Problem.

Slate  

Slate Plus members get more How to Do It each week. When I’m masturbating, once it starts feeling great I always come within like three minutes. I tell myself I’ll make it last longer, to try to get a more intense orgasm, but I just can’t get anything nearly as intense as what I get from him. I think it’s …

I’m Desperate to Escape My Husband’s “Sexual Superpower”
55 years ago

I’m Desperate to Escape My Husband’s “Sexual Superpower”

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. He jokes that if we have sex and he only has one orgasm, it doesn’t really count. So it’s hard to say whether your husband’s ability to orgasm several times during a session of sex will decline. —That’s Not How to Do It Dear Not How to Do It, Discussing “how …

I Can't Always Have An Orgasm During Sex. Here's How I Got To Be OK With It.
2 years, 11 months ago

I Can't Always Have An Orgasm During Sex. Here's How I Got To Be OK With It.

Huff Post  

Paul Strowger via Getty Images Generally, crying during sex is not considered a turn-on. We tried different positions, new lube, dirty talk, no talk, porn ― everything we could think of that didn’t involve a visit to an actual doctor. By this time, I’d started to entertain the idea that maybe I didn’t even like or need sex that much. …

My husband can’t climax during sex anymore, and I need advice.
5 years, 5 months ago

My husband can’t climax during sex anymore, and I need advice.

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Ever since then, it’s become harder and harder for my husband to climax, to the point where sex seems like a long, exhausting process, and not in a good way. If I took every wilting willy or missing money shot personally, I’d have very low self-esteem. Stoya: I think they might …

I don’t orgasm with my husband: sex advice from How to Do It.
5 years, 10 months ago

I don’t orgasm with my husband: sex advice from How to Do It.

Slate  

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. He did come back once he’d had time to digest it, but our sex life is limited to anything but intercourse, and he’s very meticulous about washing after and avoiding risk as much as possible. Washing after sex, pretending like you’re the only person in the world with herpes, generally shaming …

Discover Related