The secret to lasting love might just be knowing how to fight

The secret to lasting love might just be knowing how to fight If you love someone, learn to fight with them. That might feel counterintuitive, but it is the advice of world-renowned relationship researchers and clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman. TAGLE: But couples still need to get those feelings out, says Julie Schwartz Gottman. JULIE SCHWARTZ GOTTMAN: An each person really deserves to express those emotions, but they have to express them in such a way that their partner can hear them, and they're not sabotaging. TAGLE: This gentler approach, says Julie Schwartz Gottman, creates space for your partner to better see your point of view and vice versa.