I Hand-Painted a Mural for My Sister-In-Law’s Nursery. Then I Saw How She Defaced It.

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. No matter what you decide to do, I would not plan on going out of your way for Jess anytime soon, though, since for now, she’s shown she doesn’t deserve your time or talents. My husband’s family is more spread out—his parents/siblings visit us three to four times a year for a weekend at a time. I also don’t think this is fair because I spend significantly more time with his family than he does with mine already given the longer travel involved. Since your family is only an hour away, why not make the Friday after Thanksgiving your special meal day and spend Thanksgiving day at your family’s house or vice-versa?