Ugh! Here’s how we kill ghosting once and for all

Alexis Fischer was excited to jump back into the dating world after being single for two years. So ghosting lets people do both at the same time.” A ghoster may think, “‘I protect myself from being a bad person,’” Utley said, “‘and I protect you from hating me by not explaining the real reason why I don’t want to know you anymore.’” No matter which way you slice it, suddenly disappearing without letting the other person know can cause more harm than good. People just don’t want to be in communication with me.’” — Ebony Utley, a professor of communication studies at Cal State Long Beach Utley said that when people are ghosted, they often revert to their “little kid state” where they think that everything is their fault. “I think how the other person responds is a variable that we can’t control,” said Chang, who’s also the program director for Lighthouse Counseling Solutions. However, it’s not your responsibility to make the other person “feel better about the breakup because they are going to interpret it however they want to interpret it,” he said.