Adults Can Be Bullies, Too. Here Are The Red Flags To Look Out For.

fitie via Getty Images Bullying is generally associated with children, but the last few years have given us ample examples of adults showcasing classic bullying behavior. “All forms of bullying harm the victim’s sense of self, safety, and security and often lead to feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, and loss of control,” she said. While the forms of adult bullying can run the gamut ― the American Psychological Association defines bullying as “a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort, and can take the form of physical contact, words, or more subtle actions” ― the tell-tale signs that you’re dealing with an adult bully tend to be fairly similar. “Bullies will attempt to push your buttons, so it’s important to continuously remind yourself that a bully’s behavior reflects how they feel about themself, and it has nothing to do with you,” she said. Or perhaps you might set a boundary with the bully and encourage them to leave.” In these moments, Martinez said, “finding words to support someone who can’t find their own words, or is too scared out of fear of retribution, can be a powerful form of solidarity.” pixdeluxe via Getty Images “Bullies ultimately want to make someone feel as small and insignificant as someone earlier in their life made them feel, as most bullies were once bullied themselves,” psychologist Renee A. Exelbert said.