We Waited for Our Wedding Night. Uh, Not What I Was Expecting.

Slate Plus members get more How to Do It each week. I know that sex isn’t only about orgasm, and I enjoy it for the closeness even when I don’t feel particularly stimulated by it. Still, it’s disappointing when the exact same strategy on his part only works once a week, and when I’m left after an almost-maybe-orgasm thinking, “Is that it?” I’ve never been able to masturbate past the plateau point, and I’m not comfortable trying toys, especially this early in my sex life. Nina Hartley’s “Guide to …” series, and jessica drake’s “Wicked Guide to…” series are great resources—sex education with explicit demonstrations. Meanwhile, books like Annie Sprinkles The Explorer’s Guide to Planet Orgasm and Barbara Carrellas’ Urban Tantra can give you some ideas of how to touch each other.