L.A. Affairs: I’m 56 and have never been in love. Do red flags matter at my age?
2 years, 3 months ago

L.A. Affairs: I’m 56 and have never been in love. Do red flags matter at my age?

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I removed all dating apps from my phone. My role was “the sugar daddy,” and he was “the struggling hunk.” I was going to take care of him, and all he had to do was be cute and love me. In our fantasy, the sugar daddy would pull out a money clip and start counting Benjamins to make his problems go away. My fantasy self wanted this “romance.” My reality self felt like a dirty old man who needed to pay to play. I saw the three dots and thought he would be pleading for another shot, but the response I got back was: “Sure.” We never spoke again.

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L.A. Affairs: I’m young and attractive. So why am I on a date with a much older man?
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L.A. Affairs: I’m young and attractive. So why am I on a date with a much older man?

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L.A. Affairs: So what, I lied about my age. Is that a serious dating crime?

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The attorney and I matched on the League. One of the things I liked about you was that we had interesting conversations, and you don’t seem superficial.. You asked, and I told you the truth. According to a study I read about in Woman’s Day, 80% of all profiles include a lie about one or more of the following: age, …

L.A. Affairs: My friends saw red flags. I opened my heart to him anyway
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L.A. Affairs: My friends saw red flags. I opened my heart to him anyway

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Living in Studio City, I try to stay close to home, but on a Wednesday in February, I found myself on the other end of the San Fernando Valley doing an errand. After a couple of hours and beers, I gave him my business card — old school, I know, but that’s how I am. My friends saw red flags, …

L.A. Affairs: After a few failed relationships, was this one for real?
2 years, 6 months ago

L.A. Affairs: After a few failed relationships, was this one for real?

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Dear Alvaro, I met you two weeks after my dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer in the summer of 2021. While at the Monterey Park Hospital, knowing more about my dad’s prognosis and trying my best to hide my tears, I found solace in the dating apps. Nevertheless, I enjoyed all our outings: those hours we spent exploring …

L.A. Affairs: Are L.A. guys really this flaky? Red flag, red flag, red flag
2 years, 8 months ago

L.A. Affairs: Are L.A. guys really this flaky? Red flag, red flag, red flag

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I moved to Los Angeles from Colorado in June 2020. Living in a 350-square-foot box, I wasn’t prepared for the next couple of years of my life in a new city. In a time of desperation, I thought maybe a second chance was necessary, as he didn’t seem to be a bad guy. You acknowledge red flags and conclude that …

L.A. Affairs: On our third date, I dropped a potential deal-breaker. I’m bipolar
3 years, 2 months ago

L.A. Affairs: On our third date, I dropped a potential deal-breaker. I’m bipolar

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By the time I turned 49, I hadn’t dated in 10 years. Santa Barbara has its benefits, like the ocean and mountains, but I’ve found that the pickings are slim in this dating pond. I’m a visual person, so when I saw Brian’s photos, I was stopped in my tracks — but not in a Cinderella meets her prince courtesy …

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