I’m Letting My Ungrateful Nieces Live in My Home. Yet They Threw a Fit at My New Rules.

1 week, 3 days ago

My Niece Has Been Using “Witchcraft” Against My Brother’s Girlfriend. And It Gets Even Worse.

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. Sam was extremely upset when Bridget became pregnant and planned to move into Drew’s two-bedroom condo and put the baby in Sam’s room. I don’t know how Sam behaves in front of Drew and Bridget, but in our private conversations, she is giddily rejoicing, calling herself an A+ witch and …

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3 weeks, 2 days ago

My family must follow a strict, frustrating rule for my mother-in-law's visits

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. Furthermore, we either host my in-laws for a whole day, host my mother-in-law alone for a whole weekend, or stay at my in-laws’ house for several days. The impetus for this letter was my wife agreeing to have her mother come see us, having forgotten that we had made tentative …

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1 month, 3 weeks ago

In 'Idle Grounds', an idyllic summer with cousins takes a mysterious turn

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In 'Idle Grounds', an idyllic summer with cousins takes a mysterious turn AYESHA RASCOE, HOST: Do you remember, as a kid, those long summer days, just running around wild with other kids while the adults were off having adult conversations? In Krystelle Bamford's new novel "Idle Grounds," a family has gathered for a summer birthday, and the young cousins are …

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55 years, 3 months ago

Help! The House My Daughter Wants to Buy Is in a Terrifying Neighborhood. She Refuses to See It That Way.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. —Concerned Mom in California Dear Concerned, You need to voice your concerns—about your daughter’s physical well-being—in a way that is separate from voicing your suspicions. My sisters, however, made a huge production with their grief and keep judging our father and me for moving on “too soon.” We didn’t celebrate her birthday or Christmas …

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2 months, 1 week ago

My Daughter Went to a Friend’s House for a Play Date. She Can Never Go Back There.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. We recently invited one of these friends, “Carla,” over for a playdate; in return, Jane was invited over to Carla’s father’s house. —Don’t Want to be Rude, But… Dear Don’t, As far as I’m concerned, there is no polite way to take your child home from a playdate soon after she arrives. …

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2 months, 1 week ago

Help! My Sister Just Dropped the Bomb That She’s Pregnant. And She Expects Me to Take Care of Them Both.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Well, my sister actually pushed me, and if our Dad hadn’t gotten between us, we might have gotten physical like we did as kids. —Baby Bomb Dear Baby Bomb, Your sister is struggling with taking accountability for her choices, and she’s trying to push the discomfort of doing that work onto you. —Daughter Trouble …

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2 months, 2 weeks ago

I Just Spent Two Weeks With My Nephew. That Can’t Ever Happen Again.

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, We have a 2-year-old daughter and have had my spouse’s sibling and their family visiting for the last two weeks with their 2-year-old son. Two weeks is really a very long time, and at the holidays—when everyone’s emotions are amped up by the season, when the expectation is …

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2 months, 2 weeks ago

Help! I Agreed to Help My Sister Move. What I Saw at Her Apartment Rattled Me.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I was really upset to see this, knowing the conditions that my sister has been living in, but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to embarrass her. It makes sense that she couldn’t take proper care of your dog or your home—by the looks of her apartment, she can’t even take care …

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2 months, 2 weeks ago

Four runaway siblings set up tea & snacks stall at Maha Kumbh

Deccan Chronicle

Mahakumbh Nagar: A video of Maha Kumbh showing people earning handsome profits, a Rs 10,000 loan from a kind friend, and the grandeur of the largest human gathering on Earth have lured four siblings from Gorakhpur to Prayagraj.While this could be anybody's story, what sets the four siblings apart is that they left home without informing their parents, bought a …

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2 months, 2 weeks ago

I Asked My Sister-in-Law to Change Her Home for My Daughter’s Safety. Everyone Lost It.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, We have hosted my husband’s family’s Christmas gathering for the past eight years. My husband said he didn’t see that being a problem but that they would need to get an artificial tree instead of a real one. —Christmas Isn’t Defined by a Tree Dear Christmas, If your …

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2 months, 3 weeks ago

I Found Out My Stepdaughter Is Running an OnlyFans. I Want to Show Her My Approval.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I doubt she’s seeking your validation, but it could be helpful for her to hear that a parental figure stands by her without judgment—just be clear that you came by this information unbidden, that you obviously haven’t looked at her page, and underscore your intention “to make her feel welcome and cared …

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2 months, 3 weeks ago

My Nephew Said Something Unforgivable to My Daughter. My Sister Won’t Do Anything About It.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. My sister doesn’t understand why my parents’ house is different, and I can’t really explain it; my daughter just feels safer there. My mom convinced me to drop it, telling me that it didn’t really matter what my daughter called her, and that one day she would be old enough to understand. …

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2 months, 4 weeks ago

After I Cut Off Contact From My Mother, I Was Shocked By The Brutal Move My Sisters Made

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The author in her backyard in McLean, Virginia, in 1971. You only have one.” Or, “She gave birth to you — surely that counts for something.” People’s reactions to me took on a new wariness. That’s called “having boundaries.” At first, my chest would cave in each time I thought about the cruelty implicit in my choice. It took years …

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2 months, 4 weeks ago

I Thought I’d Devised the Perfect Way to Finally Afford a House. It’s Coming Back to Bite Me.

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Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Dear Pay Dirt, I’m a 34-year-old man, and about four years ago, I bought a house as 50 percent tenants in common with my close friend “Jae,” who is 36 and nonbinary. Two years ago, however, I met and started dating “Elle.” We’re incredibly happy together and have been talking about marriage and …

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55 years, 3 months ago

We Temporarily Opened Up Our Home to My Sister-in-Law. She’s Created an Unlivable Mess.

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Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. —Living Room Back Dear Living Room Back, I get that three people living in a one-bedroom isn’t ideal But, she’s 20. Dear Pay Dirt, * Your letter signoff Your pronouns Your email Submit Dear Pay Dirt, After four grueling years of graduate school, a few months ago, my husband took a job in …

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3 months ago

My Monster of a Step-Niece Just Caused a Major Family Blowup

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. My family only sees Polly during holidays and some weekends, but I don’t remember one instance where she hasn’t acted out. If the decision was made to ban Polly from family events, I wouldn’t challenge it; on one hand, it seems unfair to basically ex-communicate a child from her family, …

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55 years, 3 months ago

My Grandmother Only Just Passed, and Now My Wife Wants to Radically Change Her Most Beloved Family Tradition

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, Every year, my family gets together for a big festive meal to celebrate New Year’s. But while it’s not necessarily terrible or thoughtless to want to host one family dinner your own way, it could be that Florence’s plan was badly communicated to your family. I also think …

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55 years, 3 months ago

I Just Uprooted My Life to Be Closer to My Estranged Stepsisters. Big Mistake.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, * Your letter signoff Your pronouns Your email Submit Dear Care and Feeding, My kid’s class does “helper days,” where they rotate through kids on a set rotation to be chosen. I don’t agree with it, and it seems so early to have conversations explaining, “it is kind …

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3 months, 3 weeks ago

Woman reveals plans to charge her sister for Christmas visit after ‘disaster’ last year

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3 months, 3 weeks ago

I Gave My Mother a Simple Rule for Living in My Home. She Just Totally Blew Past It.

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. My sister, who lives very far away and throughout my dad’s declining health has visited maybe three times a year, made a surprise visit to our area. My husband and I were fine with this and even encouraged my aunt to come over to keep my mom company, since she …

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3 months, 3 weeks ago

CLARE FOGES: Mum adopted my baby sister at Christmas and it blessed us all. So why is it still a 'last resort' for children languishing in abusive homes?

Daily Mail

Twas the night before Christmas Eve, 1990. Most children who came to stay were my age, nine, or older, but the phone call that Christmas was about a days-old baby girl. British singer Joss Stone, 37, smiles at her newly adopted son with husband musician Cody DaLuz. The average time it takes to be adopted from care is two years …

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4 months, 1 week ago

Help! I Let My Adult Niece Live With Me and My Son on One Condition. She Already Broke It.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. For example, I’m sure your niece understood that she would be responsible for dinner most evenings, but did she understand what time you expected dinner to be prepared and served? My project lead, who is a man and has a leadership team of all men, kept saying that I do a great job, but …

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4 months, 1 week ago

Help! We Adopted Our Niece When My Sister Died. I Never Imagined She’d Turn Out Like This.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. We didn’t do anything for our son’s wedding other than attend and his sister has never asked for help like this before. My daughter and my son say they are done with their cousin and will not attend the wedding if they’re invited. —Wedding Question Dear Wedding Question, You’ve already done great by your …

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55 years, 3 months ago

My Sister-in-Law Has an Alarming Attachment to Her Son. It’s Ruining Her Life.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. A family friend offered her a part-time job and she skipped out twice the first week because she couldn’t stand leaving her son in daycare. —Soggy Sister-in-Law Dear Soggy, He’s only “nearly 4,” he interrupts a lot, and wants to go to the bathroom with his mom? You weren’t inside the marriage, …

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4 months, 4 weeks ago

I Didn’t Get a Dime of the Family Inheritance. Now I’m Faced With Explaining That to My Kids.

Slate

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. And I imagine that your goodwill toward Charlotte goes beyond not being resentful about your “disinheritance”—I imagine that Charlotte’s inheritance helps assuage any guilt you feel about her having assumed the entire burden. “Why didn’t Grandma give us anything?” should be answered, truthfully, “Grandma didn’t give your cousins these gifts—their mother, your …

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55 years, 3 months ago

Parenting advice: My teenage niece’s bullying of my kid has finally gone too far.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. The final straw happened when Erin tried to take my daughter’s Switch, and they got physical. Let your husband and your in-laws know that you aren’t changing your mind and Erin isn’t welcome until there is proof that her behavior has changed for the better. Talk with your daughter about your in-laws’ …

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55 years, 3 months ago

I Think My Sister Is Trying to Exploit Her Kids for Domestic Labor

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. It sounds like you’ve worked really hard and produced two really confident and creative kids. I regret to report that your trusted sources are right that kids are generally just “like that.” There are techniques I’ve heard of out there, like wielding a “talking stick,” to set boundaries on speaking. Our 3-year-old, …

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55 years, 3 months ago

My Family Has Been Forcing Me to Keep an Untenable Secret, and I’m About to Explode

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. There’s no reason for you to feel shame; you and your ex are amicable, your kids are doing well, and you’ve even managed to find a new partner. She wanted the roller coaster, and “it wasn’t fair!” I told Mary that we could do the roller coaster twice but not another ride …

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55 years, 3 months ago

Help! My Sister Stupidly Bought a Farm to “Raise Her Kids on the Land.” Now She’s Trying to Drag Me Into the Dirt.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I shared the news about my parents’ deaths in my Christmas card, but I never heard from Susan, though she continued to send a Christmas card every year. It’s clear that you miss her friendship, but it looks like she’s not in the right space to show up for you in the way you …

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5 months, 3 weeks ago

My Stay-at-Home Wife Was Supposed to Go Back to Work. Instead She’s Upending Our Family.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. She doesn’t want to go back to work—she wants another baby. Since you and your wife came to the agreement about not having more kids during a single session that your wife now regrets, it’s also probably worth considering a new therapist. —Dinner on the House Dear Dinner on The House, There …

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5 months, 4 weeks ago

Girl, 13, 'stabs seven-year-old sister to death while babysitting after argument about flushing the toilet'

Daily Mail

A 13-year-old girl has been accused of stabbing her seven-year-old sister to death while babysitting her after they got into an argument over 'a simple note about flushing the toilet.' A 13-year-old girl is accused of fatally stabbed her seven-year-old sister while babysitting her after they got into an argument over 'a simple note about flushing the toilet' at their …

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55 years, 3 months ago

Help! I Can’t Escape the Ghosts of My Husband’s Horrid Neighborhood Affair.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Dear Prudence, My partner won’t leave politics alone—we hold similar political views, but discussing them every evening is exhausting me. My sister doesn’t want to hear it and even stopped family therapy because of it. —House Hunter Dear House Hunter, Your sister is angry at the circumstances of her life, and I’m so sorry …

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55 years, 3 months ago

We Took in My Sister’s Child. But He’s Having a Meltdown Over Our House “Rules.”

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Praise Jeremy when he does well in school and at home.” Feteau also suggested that if Jeremy has trouble with open-ended situations, like free time, it’s appropriate to offer him two choices to choose from so that he feels less anxious or overwhelmed. At only 7 years old, he’s experienced divorce, relocations, …

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6 months, 4 weeks ago

Woman refuses to babysit brother’s children after they ‘trashed’ her home

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7 months, 4 weeks ago

Nieces’ prank kept elderly couple away from tragedy spot in Wayanad

New Indian Express

PUNJIRIMATTOM : A mischievous act by his nieces proved to be lifesaver for Abdurahman, 67, and wife Nabeesa, 60, who had a narrow escape from the massive landslide that ravaged three villages in Meppadi. The couple resided at a single-storey house at Punjirimattom, the high-altitude area close to the epicentre of the devastating landslide. We decided to shift her to …

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8 months, 2 weeks ago

My Daughter Comes Back From Cousin Sleepovers an Entirely Different Kid

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. The thing is, when I want to enforce some boundaries that I think are appropriate when everyone is together, my husband’s relatives sometimes dismiss me or can be patronizing. —Boundary Time Dear Boundary Time, Whether you are sending your kid to her cousins’ house or a neighbor’s or even just …

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8 months, 3 weeks ago

Reddit users weigh in on adult siblings’ vacation bedroom dispute

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9 months ago

I Think My Niece Is Trying to Hurt My Baby

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. If my mother is holding my son, my niece will attempt to push him out of my mother’s lap because she wants cuddles. Your parents shouldn’t have taken your relative self-sufficiency for granted and let you raise yourself, and your sister sounds like someone who should have taken control of her own …

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9 months, 3 weeks ago

Woman says sister sent her an invoice after babysitting her daughter

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1 year ago

‘I think of it as a posh caravan’: What it’s like to unexpectedly inherit a house

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“My mother made these,” smiles 55-year-old Sheryn. The people are different to the people I know in England – uniquely warm, charming, charismatic.” But van Ellen, 57, notes there’s a shadow of sorrow to her husband’s inheritance. Hywel Sheryn – a jovial headmaster – had often spoken of his dreams to retire to the cottage where he’d enjoyed so many …

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55 years, 3 months ago

We Let Our 11-Year-old Watch TikTok. Now Her Christmas List Has Taken a Wild Turn.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I have a 16-year-old niece, “Sara.” She’s had a rough childhood with parents that have never gotten along. Dear Care and Feeding, The other day, my dad came into my room and said that he didn’t like that I kept a few small boxes of things in the …

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1 year, 4 months ago

13 Undeniable Truths About Being The Oldest Sibling

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LOADING ERROR LOADING The best of friends. “I am more responsible for parental caregiving than my three siblings.” — Melissa K. You’re responsible and independent as a result of your upbringing. But I was terrified to bring home a C.” — Olivia H. “I had chores and curfews and expectations, and my younger two siblings had a free-for-all. Attention was …

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1 year, 4 months ago

Help! I’m Tired of My Sister’s Jealousy Over Our Giant, Free New House.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. —Feels Like a Toddler, Needs Some Adult Words Dear Adult Words I get the feeling from your letter that you won’t feel truly okay with pulling back unless you know you’ve exhausted all your options. So how about sending an email that goes something like this during the planning process for your next visit: …

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1 year, 5 months ago

I Went Out of Town for a Week. My Mother-in-Law Wreaked Havoc.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. My mother-in-law turned to the kids: “You better learn to pour your own milk from this heavy carton because your mom doesn’t care about you.” When I found out about this, I nearly blew my top. Your wife might begin with the decision not to invite her parents to stay to “help …

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1 year, 8 months ago

I’m Watching a Concerning Pattern Play Out Between My Preteen Cousins

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. It doesn’t feel good watching, but when I mentioned it to my aunt, she said “That’s just how they are” and “Isn’t it cute?” I guess it was, maybe, when they were 3 and 5, but I don’t think it is now, and it certainly won’t be if she thinks she needs …

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1 year, 9 months ago

Help! My Stepdaughter Just Delivered an Essay About How Awful I Was to Her Growing Up.

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Every week, Dear Prudence answers additional questions from readers, just for Slate Plus members. My stepdaughter ended up giving up her room to my nieces and moved back full-time with her mother. My husband came to every dance recital and every game even when I couldn’t. —Broken Heart Dear Broken Heart, I’m stuck on the phrase “ended up giving up …

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55 years, 3 months ago

Help! The Neighbors’ Feral Children Are Ruining My Property, and I Want Vengeance.

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Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I’ll remind you next time I see you.” Dear Prudence, I have two stepdaughters, “Eva” and “Bella.” Bella decided at 13 she would rather go live with her father after the marriage and our move. Even though we’re still “very close friends,”, I find myself harboring deep anger and upset toward her and the …

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55 years, 3 months ago

My Daughter Has Great Friends. But I’ve Totally Had It With One of Their Moms.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. We think it’s important that our kids learn from conflict, and as long as it’s within the realm of normal 10-year-old-conflict, we’d strongly prefer not to get involved. — Stuck in Seattle Dear Stuck in Seattle: While I understand Barbara’s impulse to protect her daughter from pain, healthy conflict is a part …

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2 years, 2 months ago

I Want My Baby to Have a Close Relationship With Her Grandparents, but My Sister Keeps Getting in the Way

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Slate Plus members get more Care and Feeding every week. Dear Care and Feeding, I am a single mom to an infant, and it’s important to me that we FaceTime my parents every day when possible. Both parents have health issues exacerbated by stress and the last thing I want is to harm them and force them to weather my …

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I’m Letting My Ungrateful Nieces Live in My Home. Yet They Threw a Fit at My New Rules.

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