One bride wants to send a very clear message to her MAGA in-laws at her wedding

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. I’m fine with this—I firmly believe in making bigots uncomfortable, especially in public spaces since the current administration is making public racism, transphobia, and general bigotry “cool again.” My friend told me that if anyone comes up to me and says anything about my jacket, I can send them her way. It sounds like your friend is using you to upset her in-laws, and I doubt she has fully considered the consequences of, so to speak, coming that hot out of the gate on her wedding day for herself and the consequences for you as the person who everyone will remember as the “person who ruined the wedding’s vibe.” You should consider the possibility that this jacket choice could go over quite badly; even if you personally don’t mind that kind of attention, at the end of the day, it is still attention that is being taken away from the whole purpose of the nuptials. —Opinionated Wife Dear Opinionated, “He says if I went along with everything he says, we would be fine.” I want you to reread this sentence you wrote in your letter, and I want you to consider what you’d say if a friend said this to you about her marriage. They bad-mouthed the broader group and said, “Believe me they won’t like you.” I have since eased away from this person and they are extremely angry.