My Daughter-in-Law Is a Tyrant. I Want Out of Grandma “Duties.”

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. It’s worth talking with your husband and deciding how you want to respond should anyone in his family directly ask whether you’re pregnant. Dear Care and Feeding, I feel like my husband’s family is penalizing me for my good household management skills. —I Still Need Help Dear I Still Need Help, I’m not sure what “I’ve tried to convey this” means, but it sounds like maybe you’ve said, “Hey, I’d love some help, too!” or dropped other similar hints, and your in-laws haven’t volunteered anything. Then make a specific ask: “Can you please bring dinner tomorrow night?” “Can you come help with the baby’s bath/bedtime?” “Can you watch the baby while I run an errand?” If they can’t or don’t want to help, they’ll refuse, but even in that case they may understand your situation a little better.