When Wesley Enoch and Deborah Mailman co-wrote The 7 Stages of Grieving in 1994-1995 it held a radical thread of hope. And as Helpmann Award-winning actress Elaine Crombie steps into the role for Sydney Theatre Company's fourth staging of the show, helmed by resident director Shari Sebbens, she's asking: "What's the use of reconciliation if we're all dead?" In April, …