Bad influence friends: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Bad influence friends: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Do you think he’s your friend?,” our son can’t help but think of him as a friend or even as an older boy to look up to. My answer was “BUILD A MASSIVE FUCKING SHED AGAINST THE FENCE SO THIS KID CAN’T HASSLE YOUR SON,” which I stand by as a valid solution. Your daughter’s emotional well-being is paramount here, and I have seen too many parents convinced their “sweet boy” won’t do something actually malevolent until they do. They said I would be “taking away his moment.” He’s not the type of guy to care about the woman proposing but now it has me rethinking things.

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DEAR JANE: I thought something I did to my son as a baby made me a good parent. Now I'm terrified it'll ruin his adult life
1 month, 2 weeks ago

DEAR JANE: I thought something I did to my son as a baby made me a good parent. Now I'm terrified it'll ruin his adult life

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Dear Jane, My son just turned 17 and I'm starting to get very worried about a bad habit he has developed. By the age of one, he would begrudgingly eat plain things like pasta, but he refused vegetables and almost anything with too much flavor. Dear Jane: I thought something I did to my son as a baby made me …

When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
2 years ago

When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. One resource you might find helpful is Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility in Feeding, which makes the case for giving kids some control over their diets. I also know that a different school might only help ameliorate the academic issues, and he might still have social issues, even if he’s surrounded by …

Cool aunt bad influence: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
2 years, 11 months ago

Cool aunt bad influence: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —Not Cool Dear Not Cool, Since it doesn’t sound like you want to cut Cool Aunt out entirely, your best bet is to use this as a learning opportunity for your daughter. Is there something else I could have done to advocate for my daughter?” Dear Care and Feeding, I’m looking for …

Starting a family: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 5 months ago

Starting a family: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I’ve always been upfront about my desire to be a parent but never thought of it as something particularly urgent, especially since I think I might want to adopt. —Baby Rabies Dear BR, I think if you’re having “swirling emotions” right now and have to keep them to yourself, you’re going to …

Positive parenting: advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Positive parenting: advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I am a firm believer in the principle of “your child isn’t giving you a hard time—they are having a hard time.” I follow Daniel Siegel’s Whole-Brain Child advice in managing behavioral issues, big feelings, etc., and I have always and consistently done the “validate, listen, reflect” process with Alice. But here’s …

Parenting style criticism: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 6 months ago

Parenting style criticism: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I love my tiny demon child so much, but I’m sick of nursing. Advice seems to say just cuddle her and give her a cup, but she doesn’t actually like cuddles and again, the cup doesn’t dissuade her from nursing at all. For more of Slate’s parenting coverage, …

Child pleading for sibling: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Child pleading for sibling: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m the mother of a bright and sociable 6-year-old, “Jane.” She is an only child for many reasons, but the overriding factor was economic—we’re median earners in an area with high housing costs, my husband and I both work full time, and we simply couldn’t afford to have …

How to help a theater kid: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

How to help a theater kid: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. ­Dear Care and Feeding, My son, who is in first grade, is a very bright, imaginative child who seems to be well-liked by his peers, and his teachers describe him as “everyone’s buddy.” Despite this, he often comes home from school dejected because no one wanted to play with him at recess. …

Privileged parents at an underprivileged school: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Privileged parents at an underprivileged school: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Your son should not talk to his friends about how much money his family has and should also understand that some of the things that he can take for granted may be out of reach for his classmates’ parents. —Babies Needin’ Babies Dear BNB, Having children requires most parents to step outside …

Crying baby, terrible neighbors: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 8 months ago

Crying baby, terrible neighbors: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. We recently received an anonymous letter in the mailbox from a neighbor saying that the baby’s crying is “ruining the neighborhood” and “disturbing the peace.” It even insinuated that our 4-week-old may be violating a city noise ordinance! While you are working this out, please make sure you’re regularly Skyping the kids …

Criticizing a friend’s parenting: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 11 months ago

Criticizing a friend’s parenting: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I pretty much know this is rhetorical, because my friend wouldn’t accept any advice from me anyway, since I’m not a parent, but is there anything I can say? By signing up, you agree to our Privacy Policy and Terms Sign Up Dear Care and Feeding, I’m expecting my first child at …

Independent toddlers: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
6 years, 1 month ago

Independent toddlers: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —JOHNNY DO IT Dear Johnny’s Parent, It’s remarkable, isn’t it, how little comfort “this is completely normal, developmentally speaking” is when you’re in the freaking shit. !” mill will be, in a few years, a great comfort when other people’s perfectly-capable children are still standing around limply insisting that someone else put …

Confronting abusive parents: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
6 years, 3 months ago

Confronting abusive parents: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. It’s an expensive building, as is most every place in L.A. We mostly get along very well—except for a family with two small children, a 4-year-old girl and a 2-year-old boy. The neighbors who know about this hate what’s happening but don’t want to get involved; I think someone has to step …

Parenting advice on disagreements about health care for kids.
6 years, 6 months ago

Parenting advice on disagreements about health care for kids.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, My husband and I frequently disagree about treating our daughter’s various childhood ailments. However, here’s the good news: It doesn’t sound like either one of you is so extreme in your views as to put your daughter in extreme harm’s way. Our friends’ daughter attended this school last …

Care and Feeding: parenting advice on going out, politeness, and revealing paternity.
7 years, 1 month ago

Care and Feeding: parenting advice on going out, politeness, and revealing paternity.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, My husband of one year has a son who is 6—let’s call him James. My husband’s father went into the room, said goodbye, and gave James $20. And even if we don’t get to make them do what we want in the moment—my favorite parenting advice ever came …

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