How shame shows up in relationships
Hindustan TimesWe often feel ashamed of our true selves to the partner in a relationship. Shame creates anxiety, anxiety gets acted out in ways that say stay safe," wrote Relationship Expert Julie Menanno as she explained the impact of shame in relationships. For avoidant partners that’s usually as defending, deflecting, shutting down, and anything else they think will keep them one step ahead of their shame. For anxious partners it’s usually blame, criticism, and controlling behaviors that they think will keep them safe from the shame that will push people away from them. How shame shows up in relationships Julie further noted down a few ways by which shame shows up in relationships: Dependency is seen as weakness: We often feel that needy people are weak.
History of this topic
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