What To Talk About In Therapy When You Don't Have Anything Specific To Say

Illustration: Yukai Du for HuffPost; Photos: Getty If you go to therapy regularly, you’ve likely talked about a range of issues. “It really provides beautiful entry points into rich material for a client.” “One of the biggest misconceptions about therapy is that we only benefit from going in times of crisis, when we have something specific to work through.” - Kathleen Dahlen deVos, a psychotherapist based in San Francisco Some clients might come prepared with talking points for the session. “The client might find that discussing the topic fills empty space but that they aren’t actually emotionally connected to the subject anymore.” Silence In Therapy Can Contribute To Its Success As clients get more comfortable with the routine and ritual of therapy, Dahlen deVos often tells them to experiment with not planning ahead to see what topics naturally emerge. “Clients and therapists have a unique relationship in which the client shares intimate things about themselves and their lives, while the therapist is less disclosing, more or less, depending on their philosophy.” It might feel a little meta to talk about therapy in therapy, but a good therapist will welcome the topic and be curious as well, Davey Tully said. “Every therapist has different boundaries around what they will and won’t share with their clients,” Doyle Byock said.