Only child has sibling sadness: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Only child has sibling sadness: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Tonight, we went to a socially distanced Halloween event, and I just felt so bad because she spent her whole time saying, “I bet all of the other kids will like my fairy wings,” but then no one said anything, and she started to say “I’m so lonely and I want a sibling” again. It’s very difficult to see our children recognize our pain, or to let them know we are hurting deeply—the last thing you want to do is to add to her sadness. —Not Opening a Toy Store Dear NOaTS, Considering that this year has largely upended most folks’ way of life and that the holiday season is going to be drastically altered by that, it is not super likely that your children’s grandparents will be excited at the prospect of dialing back the one Christmas tradition they can execute from a safe distance. First, let your husband know that you can have these conversations without being insensitive or mean, but that the burden of all these gifts seems infinitely more ridiculous to shoulder when so many families won’t be able to purchase toys for their children this year.

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When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
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When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Child pleading for sibling: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
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