Premature ejaculation treatment: I found one, but it's almost worse than the condition itself

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. During that time it was incredibly difficult to climax, which truthfully didn’t bother me as it really allowed me to focus on my partner and could last as long as necessary to help her orgasm. This isn’t sustainable and is not always an option, especially since I work from home and sometimes I’m lucky enough that my wife is in the mood for some afternoon delight. The Mayo Clinic offers these guidelines for potential PE diagnosis: You “always or nearly always ejaculate within 1 to 3 minutes of penetration, are not able to delay ejaculation during sex all or nearly all the time,” and/or “feel distressed and frustrated, and tend to avoid sexual intimacy as a result.” With desensitizing creams and SSRIs off the table, you probably will want to look into the so-called stop/start technique. You have many options if you’re looking to keep the sexual activity going for the sake of your wife’s climax, including performing oral on her, fingering, making out/holding her, or merely staying present while she finishes herself.