I've had a lover for ten years. These are the affair tricks I've learned that mean his (much more beautiful) wife and my husband will never suspect us

As I danced at my silver wedding anniversary party this summer, I couldn't have been happier. It was all stuff I might have done with my husband and yet now the heady early days of our relationship were long behind us, it would have felt inappropriate. Hearing him talk, I realised I wasn't really falling in love with him – more with the excitement of the affair – and that I still loved my husband very, very much. Our second meeting felt even naughtier for being planned – and the sex was even better for not being so rushed Not surprisingly, he's different when he's not seducing me. He's unattractively tight with money, is boring about health and fitness and I don't like how he is with his wife when he's being the family patriarch – a little bit bossy and condescending in a way he would never dare to be with me.