Battles with exes: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Battles with exes: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Even now, as an adult, these are the type of friends he’s drawn to, which has resulted in him thinking this is “normal” behavior. Today my ex told me that by teaching my son not to interrupt people, I’m “ruining his life” and “crippling his chances to enjoy normal social interaction with his peers.” Me “ruining his life” also applies to things like teaching him not to talk with a mouth full of food, not to drop trash on the floor, etc. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m the “one and done” mom of a 6-year-old kindergartener. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m a freshman in high school and have an unghostable friend, “Ashley.” Ashley is toxic—constantly blaming others for her own mistakes, gossiping about friends behind their backs, and even outing one of our mutual friends and my close friend, “Kara,” to me and a few other people.

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When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
2 years ago

When siblings fight: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. One resource you might find helpful is Ellyn Satter’s Division of Responsibility in Feeding, which makes the case for giving kids some control over their diets. I also know that a different school might only help ameliorate the academic issues, and he might still have social issues, even if he’s surrounded by …

When stepsiblings clash: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
2 years, 2 months ago

When stepsiblings clash: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Slate Plus Members Get More Advice from Michelle Each Week From this week’s letter, My In-Laws’ Pushy Offers to “Help” With My Baby Are Driving Me Nuts: “When they are at the house, I feel like I’m being judged the whole time.” Dear Care and Feeding, Both of my children are childfree. …

How to handle moving: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

How to handle moving: Parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. During the time I’ve lived here, I’ve seen countless families move away, and I wouldn’t fault you one bit for getting a bigger bang for your buck elsewhere. We talked about it, with me presenting the stellar local daycare we can afford with upcoming openings as our alternate option and he said …

Cool aunt bad influence: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
2 years, 11 months ago

Cool aunt bad influence: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —Not Cool Dear Not Cool, Since it doesn’t sound like you want to cut Cool Aunt out entirely, your best bet is to use this as a learning opportunity for your daughter. Is there something else I could have done to advocate for my daughter?” Dear Care and Feeding, I’m looking for …

Starting a family: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 5 months ago

Starting a family: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I’ve always been upfront about my desire to be a parent but never thought of it as something particularly urgent, especially since I think I might want to adopt. —Baby Rabies Dear BR, I think if you’re having “swirling emotions” right now and have to keep them to yourself, you’re going to …

Positive parenting: advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Positive parenting: advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I am a firm believer in the principle of “your child isn’t giving you a hard time—they are having a hard time.” I follow Daniel Siegel’s Whole-Brain Child advice in managing behavioral issues, big feelings, etc., and I have always and consistently done the “validate, listen, reflect” process with Alice. But here’s …

When kids grow up: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 6 months ago

When kids grow up: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. What I’d say to you is that a full-time job like your husband’s is a 40 -hour-a-week commitment; child care, home-schooling, housecleaning, and meal prep are closer to 96 hours. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m looking for guidance on a relatively trivial issue: My almost 4-year-old has been talking about having a …

Parenting style criticism: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 6 months ago

Parenting style criticism: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I love my tiny demon child so much, but I’m sick of nursing. Advice seems to say just cuddle her and give her a cup, but she doesn’t actually like cuddles and again, the cup doesn’t dissuade her from nursing at all. For more of Slate’s parenting coverage, …

Kids can’t be anything they want: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Kids can’t be anything they want: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I can’t ask my mom or friends this question because it’ll sound like I’m bragging, when I’m really just completely perplexed. We’ve never done any type of phonics or “reading training.” My husband and I like to read, but it’s not an obsessive thing. My spouse is happy …

Snacking policies between families: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
4 years, 11 months ago

Snacking policies between families: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

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Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —Sensible Snacker Dear SS, I think you should consider the possibility that Sansa’s parent may also have some issues in their background that could inform the way that they choose to dole out snacks, such as food insecurity, a caregiver who was unreasonably restrictive about snacking, or their own battle with disordered …

When your child is a jerk: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

When your child is a jerk: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, My twin daughters will soon turn 7, and I’m throwing a birthday party for them in our home. Beyond how crowded our house would be, I feel bad that this child isn’t even allowed two hours away from her brother, or her parents for that matter. —Party-Challenged Dear …

In-laws and wedding drama: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 5 months ago

In-laws and wedding drama: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, How do I best help support my teenager’s mental health during the college application process? The problem is that we’re approaching college application time, and given his test scores, academic record, etc., everyone around him expects him to be applying to all the most-selective schools. In no particular …

Kid wants to do an extreme diet: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
55 years, 2 months ago

Kid wants to do an extreme diet: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. By signing up, you agree to our Privacy Policy and Terms Sign Up Dear Care & Feeding, I had a healthy baby girl three weeks ago and I’m starting to wonder: When does being a parent improve? —Confused Mom Dear Confused Mom, I think you can tell your daughter freely, if you …

Bachelor parties with new babies: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 8 months ago

Bachelor parties with new babies: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, I am currently six months pregnant with my husband’s and my first child. Dear Care and Feeding, My almost-5-year-old has started to say “I hate you,” “You are a meanie,” or “I am never going to listen to you ever again” when he doesn’t get his way. —I …

The surprise bris: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 10 months ago

The surprise bris: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I’ve done everything short of saying “Because I don’t want to host a penis party to expose my son to the world.” Through my fiancé’s sister, we were warned of my future mother-in-law’s plan to host a “surprise” bris at our house a week after the birth! —We Do Not Want a …

Small children and wiping: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 11 months ago

Small children and wiping: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I’ve tried to explain gift-giving, being grateful, and even donating old toys to charity but he seems too young to really understand and it ends in tears. I’ve asked my in-laws to please stop buying him presents, but he’s so used to it that he asks every time he speaks to them …

Criticizing a friend’s parenting: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
5 years, 11 months ago

Criticizing a friend’s parenting: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. I pretty much know this is rhetorical, because my friend wouldn’t accept any advice from me anyway, since I’m not a parent, but is there anything I can say? By signing up, you agree to our Privacy Policy and Terms Sign Up Dear Care and Feeding, I’m expecting my first child at …

Independent toddlers: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
6 years, 1 month ago

Independent toddlers: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. —JOHNNY DO IT Dear Johnny’s Parent, It’s remarkable, isn’t it, how little comfort “this is completely normal, developmentally speaking” is when you’re in the freaking shit. !” mill will be, in a few years, a great comfort when other people’s perfectly-capable children are still standing around limply insisting that someone else put …

Confronting abusive parents: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.
6 years, 3 months ago

Confronting abusive parents: parenting advice from Care and Feeding.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. It’s an expensive building, as is most every place in L.A. We mostly get along very well—except for a family with two small children, a 4-year-old girl and a 2-year-old boy. The neighbors who know about this hate what’s happening but don’t want to get involved; I think someone has to step …

Care and Feeding: parenting advice on going out, politeness, and revealing paternity.
7 years, 1 month ago

Care and Feeding: parenting advice on going out, politeness, and revealing paternity.

Slate  

Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Dear Care and Feeding, My husband of one year has a son who is 6—let’s call him James. My husband’s father went into the room, said goodbye, and gave James $20. And even if we don’t get to make them do what we want in the moment—my favorite parenting advice ever came …

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